Navigating Homeschool Skepticism with Confidence
As the holiday season approaches, many homeschooling families know that conversations with relatives can quickly turn to questions about their education choices. So, how do we respond when someone just doesn’t understand why we homeschool?
We’ve all been there. In the early years, every sideways comment or unsolicited opinion can feel like a personal smackdown. Now, with more years of experience, these moments are more laughable than upsetting. But we also remember what it’s like to feel nervous, especially when facing close family members who just don’t “get it.”
When a Stranger or Friend Questions Your Choice
One of Lisa’s most memorable encounters was when a stranger approached her in a Walmart checkout line. She had her eight kids with her, plus some of a friend’s brood, and let’s just say they attracted some curious glances.
That’s when the comment came: “They really should be in school.”
And then…well, you’ll have to listen to the episode to hear what I said (eek).
I’m still a little embarrassed by that response, but it’s made for many laughs since then.
Have a Simple Response Handy
When it comes to those tougher, ongoing conversations with loved ones, a little Southern-style charm and straightforwardness go a long way. Try keeping it simple: “Thank you for sharing your opinion with me. I’m glad you love us enough to care.”
Those few words do wonders in closing the door on debate and letting everyone get back to the holiday spirit.
Highlight the Benefits of Homeschooling
Sometimes, people’s questions come from genuine curiosity. That’s when I like to share the real perks of homeschooling.
- Did you know that Ivy League universities save spots for homeschooled students?
- Homeschooling kids also tend to have lower rates of mental health struggles and higher social adaptability, thanks to regular interaction with people of all ages.
Ally finds that sharing just a few of these points puts relatives at ease. When people realize homeschooling isn’t about isolation but about deepening family connections, they’re more open to understanding our choice.
Let Your Kids Speak for Themselves
Kids are the best ambassadors for homeschooling. Ally’s daughter, sweet as she is, has a knack for politeness—with a hint of sass if the need arises. When questioned, she calmly educates people with facts, and sometimes she leaves them speechless with a simple, “This is what works best for our family.”
That mix of confidence and respect is the best response of all.
Assume the Best Intentions
Instead of bracing for a battle, assume people are curious. Always assume the best.
If they ask, “But what about socialization?” share a funny story about your kids chatting with anyone, anywhere. Homeschooling doesn’t mean being closed off—it’s often just the opposite! Many of our children are thriving because they’re learning life skills in real-life situations.
So, as you head into the holiday season, be confident.
The choices you’ve made for your family are intentional, thoughtful, and full of love. Stand tall in that truth, and if all else fails, just smile and offer to get them pie.
Statistics For Sharing
- Homeschoolers tend to have significantly lower rates of mental health struggles, including depression and anxiety. (source)
- Homeschoolers consistently outperform public and private school students by over 40 percentage points on standardized tests, regardless of their parents’ education levels. (source)
- Ivy League universities reserve a portion of their enrollment for homeschoolers due to their strong academic and personal success. (source)
- And of course, we share even more in the episode!
